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PARENT RESOURCES

 

Suggestions and Expectations For Parents of Student-Athletes

By |April 21st, 2018|Categories: Parent Resources|

Before  competitions,  formulate  answers  to:

• Why  do  I  want  my  child  to  participate?
• What  role  do  I  want  them  to  play?
• What  goals  do  you  have  for  the  experience?

Compare  these  answers  to  your  child’s  answers.   

The  experience  is  for  your  child.  Keep  things  in  perspective  and  avoid  having  the  sport serve  as  the  only  means  by which  the  child  has an  identity.

RELEASE  your  child  to  the  coaches  and  the  sport  experience.  You  are  not  releasing  if: 

• you  continue  to  share  in  the  credit  if  things  go  well
• you  continually  evaluate  and  assess  performance
• you  try  to  resolve  all  the  problems  that  come  up  in  a  season  (playing  time, injuries,  penalties,  etc.)
• you  continue  to  coach  them  when  they  probably  know  as  much  or  more than  you!
• you  yell  at  officials  during  the  game
• your  child  is  over-­‐stressed  and  over-­‐managed
• you  are  building  excuses  at  the  end  of  the  games  (losses  don’t  need  to  be  excused)
• your  child  avoids  you  or  is  embarrassed  at  the  end  of  the  game
• your  child  looks  to  you  for  coaching  during  the  game
• you’re  regularly  and  obviously  nervous,  or  holding  on  to  losses

After  the  competition:

• use  praise  and  encouragement  –  no  analysis  or  criticism
• your  child  needs  a  parent  after  the  game,  not  a  coach  or  critic
• give  your  child  time  and  space  –  recovery  time  is  important
• value  of  the  youngster  should  not  be  tied  to  the  outcome  of  the competition

Parent’s Role with L-S Athletics

By |April 21st, 2018|Categories: Parent Resources|

This list contains a number of suggestions and best practices to help you support your child and enjoy the sport.

• Do everything possible to make the athletic experience positive for your child and others.
• View the game with team goals in mind.
• Attempt to relieve competitive pressure rather than increase it.
• Encourage multi-sport participation (vs specialization).
• Release your children to the coach and the team.
• Look upon opponents as friends involved in the same experience.
• Accept the judgment of the officials and coaches; remain in control.
• Accept the results of each game; do not make excuses.
• Demonstrate winning and losing with dignity.
• Dignify mistakes made by athletes who are giving their best effort and concentration.
• Be an encourager – encourage athletes to keep their perspective in both victory and defeat.
• Be a good listener.
• Accept the goals, roles, and achievements of your child.
• If you have a concern, make sure your child feels the same way. Ask your child to discuss the concern with the coaches. If there is still a problem, set up a meeting with the coaches and your child to try and solve the problem.
• Coaches and parents should be viewed as being on the same team – we are allies.
• After a game, parents should give their children space and time.
• After a game (win or lose), youngsters need a parent – not another coach/critic.
• Parents should be confidence builders by maintaining a consistent perspective and not saying or doing anything that will have their children feel like their self-worth is tied to playing time or outcome of a game.
• There are 4 roles in interscholastic athletics: player, coach, official, parent/spectator. Pick one role only.

Thank you and enjoy the season!

LS Athletics Program Covenants

By |April 21st, 2018|Categories: Parent Resources|

RESPECT

  • Teammates – never let your teammates down
  •  School – reflect the LS core values (respect for human differences, promotion of caring & cooperative relationships, pursuit of excellence), abide by school wide rules
  • Coaches & Teachers – trust your teaching, learn to take constructive feedback as a compliment
  • Opponents – make a commitment to greet/welcome all visiting teams, play hard & fair
  • Officials – captains and coaches greet officials, model poise with calls
  • Differences – beliefs, customs, dress, lifestyles
  • Facilities/equipment/bus – clean up areas such as fields/gyms/locker rooms after use, appoint a “master of the locker room,” respect opponents equipment & facilities
  • Self – practice humility, teachable spirit, serve the team, resist temptations, remain in control during emotional times

COMMITMENT

  • Team first attitude, buy into something bigger than yourself (team goals)
  • Show up every day and give your best
  • Start your own engine, bring enthusiasm, work just as hard when nobody is watching
  • Your effort in practice should match your effort against your toughest opponent
  • Be a “get it done” teammate, identify team needs and get them done
  • Go the extra mile in work ethic and building relationships
  • Be positive, optimistic
  • Share your passion
  • Protect and defend by being loyal to coaches & teammates, especially when things are going poorly, never give up
  • Choose the hard right over the easy wrong

L-S SUCCESS – An Experience Beyond Victory

  • “We” has mentally and physically overtaken “me”
  • Personal reward is given away to team glory
  • When all strengths, attitudes, energies, roles and skills are voluntarily,intentionally blended together for sake of team
  • When entire focus is on collective accomplishment

Defining Roles for Players, Coaches and Parents

By |April 12th, 2018|Categories: Parent Resources|

ROLES IN SPORTS

When parents stop and analyze the athletic experience for their children, the reasons they want their kids to play sports involve providing an opportunity to develop physically, emotionally and to enjoy.

The side-benefits of playing sports include giving kids a good opportunity to learn how to work and get along with others, to take good risks in a public arena and survive, to learn to set and achieve goals by developing positive work habits, to learn how to succeed and fail with dignity, and develop friendships outside the family unit that last a lifetime.

Player’s role Coach’s Role Parent’s Role
• Play the game for fun
• Be gracious when you win
and graceful when you lose
• Respect and abide by the
rules of the game
• Put the team above yourself
in every situation
• Accept decisions made by
those in authority
• Demonstrate respect to your
opponents, coaches and
teammates
• Be accountable for your own
actions
• Develop a teachable spirit
that allows you to take
correction as a compliment
• Accept and embrace the
discipline involved in
athletics, because it benefits
the team
• Develop a feeling of pride,
based upon “shared joy” of
the team, and do not have
pride that emanates from
arrogance or a sense of
entitlement
• Coach for the love of the
game and the love of the
athlete
• Put the welfare of your
athletes above winning
• Accept and abide by the
judgement of the officials
and rules of the game as
“mutual agreements”
required to play within the
spirit of the game
• Reward effort and behavior
instead of outcome
• Give dignity to mistakes
made with full speed and
attention
• Lead with character and by
example
• Put the needs of the team
ahead of any individual
• Constantly work to improve
your knowledge of the game
and your ability to teach the
game to your athletes
• Be willing to confront
incorrect behavior or less
than an all-out effort
• Encourage multiple-sport
participation
• Keep the game simple and
fun
• Be willing to work with
parents for the benefit of the
individual athlete
• Develop a positive-
demanding coaching style
• Be a model, not a critic,
model appropriate behavior,
poise and confidence
• Attend as many games as
possible
• Do everything possible to
make the athletic experience
positive for your child and
others
• View the game with TEAM
goals in mind
• Attempt to relieve
competitive pressure, not
increase it
• Encourage multiple-sport
participation
• Release your children to the
coach and to the team
• Look upon opponents as
friends involved in the same
experience
• Accept the judgement of the
officials and coaches, remain
in control
• Accept the results of each
game, do not make excuses
• Demonstrate losing and
winning with dignity
• Dignify mistakes made by
athletes who are giving their
best effort and concentration
• Be an encourager –
encourage athletes to keep
their perspective in both
victory and defeat
• Be a good listener
• Accept the goals, roles and
achievements of your child

Used with Bruce Brown’s permission (www.proactivecoaching.info)

How To Make Your Kid Hate Sports Without Really Trying

By |March 21st, 2018|Categories: Parent Resources|

Christine Carugati, 18, of Langhorne, Pennyslvania started getting recruited to play college lacrosse the summer after the ninth grade. You heard that right — when she just finished her freshman year in high school.

“What ninth grader knows what they want and what ninth grader, never mind an adult, isn’t easily swayed, thinking somebody wants me. It’s very intoxicating for any age but for a child especially, so my counsel was to keep all your options open,” said her mom, Mary Carugati, during an interview.
 
And now it appears the courting process is starting even earlier. Syracuse University made headlines recently with word that an eighth-grade girl had verbally committed to play on its women’s lacrosse team, a move that appears to be the youngest ever commitment to a men’s or women’s college lacrosse team [Continue reading…